"You found someone else you had every reason You know I cant blame you for runnin to her!
Now being without you Takes a lot of getting used to Should learn to live with it But I dont want to Living without you Is all a big mistake Instead of getting easier Its the hardest thing to take Im addicted to ya babe Youre a hard habit to break"
Hey Sun shine, do you know you have become more creative than ever! I know your every words are wet with your tears but they are so touching that I could not stop myself being dragged by them.
I wish I could make you smile and change your every words to .........
Just move on girl.Let him go.He dropped you even without informing you.He is a coward,loser ,lier,opportunistic,idiot and you know what he lost- somebody who loves him so much.Infact he is real loser.What I see is u didn't lose anything.You found that he left you without even saying a word and married another person.That means he didn't love you. At this age and time,if one truely loves the other person,parents will give up if the kids are persistent and if kids don't agree to marry any other person besides the one he/she loves.Be happy that u got stuck with such pathetic person only for 2,3 years not lifelong.
Watch commedies,meet friends,if u r a student,pay attention to your studies.Do whatever you love to do before you met him.Life is fun,move on. Be optimistic.
You made a mistake of loving him.But it's not only u,everybody makes mistakes.Now what you need to do is learn from your mistake.Don't push yourself too hard.Do yoga.Meditation helps.Try to creat a new hobby.Indulge yourself in cooking or reading books or whatever makes you happy.It's not always bf or husband.You develop your own world too.Talk to your parents,siblings,chat with friends.But don't be pesimistic and keep listening tragic songs.
I'm sure,with this bad experience,you will turn out to be a better person and hope one day you'll meet a nice guy who really appreciates you and love you.
Sorry for my last line.You are already a nice person.What I mean to say is with this bad experience you'll be more careful from next time in identifying a right person.And hope one day a nice guy will appreciate you more and love you the most.
Have you ever tried to think, why did he dump you? I tell you the reason, because you loved him too much and he took it for granted. Imagine a situation, after few months your heart is healed; now you are in love with another gentleman, everything is going fine but this gentleman loves you too much that his love for you is his weakness, he cares you too much that your every steps, your every words bothers him, he starts analyzing about every tiny things about you, he starts being too much possessive and too much judgemental about you….that day you might dump that gentleman as your ex dumped you.
SunShine, your love for your ex is the greatest, not himself. Why are you glorifying it too much? Why are you telling your heart that he loved you, when it’s crystal clear that he just wanted your company and never loved you as you did? Why do you still want the situation to be in your favour? Why do you still want him back or want that he would love you again? Why are you pretending as if changes did not happen? Change is the universal rule, it happens whether you like it or not, either enjoy the change, or stay crying saying, “Why did this change happen?†Everything has changed but you are the one who is not accepting the change.
Once upon a time there was a gorgeous girl (A). Then there was a good looking guy (B) who was truly madly deeply in love with A and he was desperate to get her. But he was sad that A never loved him. Then another not so good looking girl (C) entered into the story. C loved B as much as B loved A. If you believe that one should get his/her true love, please tell me the solution for this story.
Time is the healer, and you will feel very strong oneday. But please do not take long time for this. Your heart should be strong enough to absorb the sorrows and pains of the surrounding and release the love and happiness for the surrounding. Why don’t you change your style of loving and start smiling again? Everyone deserves love, your family, your friends, co-workers, society, country, the whole world….. Why don’t you start loving everyone as much as you love your ex? Please remember, not expecting love from others for your love for them is the greatest way to love. Just forgive your ex for his mistake as if he was your baby.
Well, the thing you achieved that no one could is your experience. Human tests the purity of gold by putting it on fire, and God gave you the hard time to test your purity, now all impurities have been burnt.
Here is a medicine for your heart for the moment. It’s my favourite Gitasar (you can search other original versions)
Whatever happened, it happened for good. Whatever is happening, is happening for good. Whatever that will happen, it will be for good. What have you lost for which you cry? What did you bring with you, which you have lost? What did you produce, which has destroyed? You did not bring anything when you were born. Whatever you have, you have received from Him. Whatever you will give, you will give to Him. You came empty handed and
you will go the same way.
Whatever is yours today was somebody else’s yesterday and will be somebody else’s tomorrow.
We broke up, she said she hates me, relationship ended, all things disapered, but still life goes on!!!
full of unsuccess, destroyed and vanished, crying and being crazy, moving here and there in unconsciousness, searching a way to walk, sun to rise for me, but no! its not there ! but still life goes on.
I am a dreamer, I always dreams, alot and alot, but dreams remains as dreams, unsuccess and unfullfilled, hurting the heart, but still life goes on.
stopped, paining, hurting, fraustrated, depressed, and in hell, but still life goes on..
Bideshi and Frozendream, accept my sincere appreciation for dropping by... and I will definitely try to work on your suggestion. But, when all your roads lead to someone, it seems impossible to move on; when all that you had nurtured, cared, loved and caressed is gone, the 'change' is like your own version of hell; when the only time your phone rings is when your alarm goes off, it's excruciating; when it's not about finding a better person, the one you had seems to be the ever best!
I m so sorry for being so stubborn, but I hope you all will understand!
And since the intensity of my loss is more profound, doesn't that make me a even bigger loser, bideshi jyu? Thanks again!
छैन, मलाई बन्द कोठाभित्र डर लाग्ने गर्या छैन, तिम्रो उपहारले जिस्काउने गर्या पनि छैन, तिमीले गाएका गीतहरुले झस्काउने गर्या पनि छैन, तिम्रो यादले अल्झाउने गर्या पनि छैन, तर पनि खै किन हो, यि आसुँ झर्न बन्द गर्या हैन ।
छैन, मैले तिम्रो बारेमा सोच्ने गर्या छैन, के गरिराछौ भनेर सोध्ने गर्या पनि छैन, भबिस्य त रहेन नै, अतितलाई सम्झी लोलाउने गर्या पनि छैन, तर खै किन हो, यि आसुँ बहन बन्द गर्या हैन ।
छैन, मैले ऐनालाई हत्केलाले छोप्ने गर्या छैन, आफ्नै प्रतिबिम्बले मलाई तर्साउने गर्या पनि छैन, टोलाएर अनायासै त्येस्लाइ चिथोर्ने गर्या पनि छैन, तर खै किन हो, यि आसुँ बग्न बन्द गर्या हैन ।
तिमी फर्की आउने बाटो मैले हेर्ने गर्या छैन, तिम्रो तस्विर सँग एक्लै बात मार्ने गर्या पनि छैन, तिम्रो सन्देश दोहोर्याएर मस्किने गर्या पनि छैन, तर खै किन हो, यि बलिन्धारा बग्न बन्द गर्या पनि हैन ।
मलाई खुला आकाश मुनी अत्याश लाग्ने गर्या छैन, किनकी-मलाई त्यहा अझै पनि तिम्रो उपस्थितीको आभाश हुन्छ लाग्छ - मलाई हेरिरहेका छौ, म सँग हाँसी रहेका छौ, अनी म पनि प्रयास गर्छु - हास्न, कारण थाहा छैन, तर खै किन हो, आज फेरी यि सस्ता आसुँ झर्न बन्द गर्या हैन ।।।
I was also in the same phase few months ago, as you are now. In that sense, I can feel your pain and I know how hard it is.
You can not forget him easily but please remember that forgetting him is the best option for you. This option may look dark but just push yourself into this option and enjoy the beauty of life. I t seems to me that it's hard to inspire and influence you at this phase because you are kind of addicted and it seems like nothing can replace your addiction. I was same like you.
Try to come back to your life, try to look at the different dimensions of the things,love is in the air, love is all around you. So don't feel alone and empty. While you walk down the street or travel in the bus, all people around you had tragedies and break ups in life ( although nobody likes it), but why do we find our own problem as the biggest ??? isn't it exxageration? Deaths, accidents, sickness, tragedies.... do happen in life, but the blind says eyes are vital and deaf says ears are vital.
Let's seek to understand others first before we want them to understand us, lets start loving and caring others instead of wanting someone to come and love us. Inspiration is all around you, all you need is different perspectives. You can find different self improvement books or you can see the psychologist to heal your heart .....BUT before going there, look at their immense effort and hardwork to find something to solve other's problems, look at the food you are eating, take a single grain of rice and feel how many people had to sweat before it came to you, look at the computer you are using or anything....how hard is everyone trying to make this world a better place to live. Then why are we still quarelling with our bitter past???
If Laila's crazy boyfriend Majnu was born at this time, he should have been sent to a rehabilitation or psychologist, because he was severely addicted with Laila and he called that 'love'. I am not against love, but let's not destroy our beautiful life and convert our love into selfishness.
At last but not the least, I am also your poem's fan, I am glad that you are finding a way to convert your pain into poems. I wish and pray for your best!
If I should die before I wake It's 'cause you took my breath away Losing you is like living in a world with no air I'm here alone, didn't wanna leave My heart won't move, it's incomplete Wish there was a way that I can make you understand
But how do you expect me to live alone with just me 'Cause my world revolves around you It's so hard for me to breathe.....
Dear Frozendream...thank you for liking my feelings that are encrypted into words... "I t seems to me that it's hard to inspire and influence you at this phase because you are kind of addicted and it seems like nothing can replace your addiction"... :) True!!!
It's been seven hours and fifteen days Since you took your love away I go out every night and sleep all day Since you took your love away Since you been gone I can do whatever I want I can see whomever I choose I can eat my dinner in a fancy restaurant But nothing ... I said nothing can take away these blues, 'Cause nothing compares ... Nothing compares to you
It's been so lonely without you here Like a bird without a song Nothing can stop these lonely tears from falling Tell me baby where did I go wrong? I could put my arms around every boy I see But they'd only remind me of you went to the doctor guess what he told me Guess what he told me? He said, girl, you better have fun No matter what you do But he's a fool ... 'Cause nothing compares ... Nothing compares to you ...
All the flowers that you planted, 'baba'
In the back yard All died when you went away I know that living with you baby was sometimes hard But I'm willing to give it another try 'Cause nothing compares ... Nothing compares to you
शब्द सम्मोहन त यस्तो पो जसले मुटु छेड्छ, आँखा रसाउँछ, वेदना त यस्तो पो जसले दुङ्गाको मन पनि पगालीदिन्छ, प्रेम त यस्तो पो जसले सबै प्रेमका उदाहरण बिर्साइदिन्छ, निश्चलता त यस्तो पो जसको अगाडि सबै स्वार्थी लाग्छ समर्पण त यस्तो पो जोसँग जितेको मान्छे पनि हारेर झुक्नेछ, चाहना त यस्तो पो जसले अब जो कोही पनि छुट्टीन डराउनेछ, बिछोडमा यतीसम्म पिडा कि, अब भगवान पनि कसैको बिछोडसँग तर्सिनेछ।
यो हदसम्म उसले पनि माया गरेको भए, बिछोडमा उसलाई पनि यतीसम्म पिडा हुने भए, चाहे प्रलय नै किन नहोस्, यो बिछोड हुन पाउने थिएन।
SunShine ज्यू, तपाईंको मनमा प्रेम ज्युदै भए पनि त्यो 'सम्बन्ध' दुर्घटनामा परेर मरिसक्यो। अब कहिल्यै फर्केर आउँदैन। जती आँसु बगाउनुथियो, बगाइ सक्नु भो, अब त्यो मरेको सम्बन्धलाई तिलान्जली दिएर किरिया गरिदिनुस्।
Just think about your name. The sun of your life has just been clouded, not set for ever. Time is both the creator and healer of all wounds, it will have to cure yours. I don't say I understand you because you don't understand yourself.
You have lost a friend, not friendship.
You have lost a lover, not love.
You have lost a companion, not your way.
Your writings are pure, heart-touching. Every one is not as gifted as you.
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was. We do not possess anything in this world, least of all other people. We only imagine that we do. Our friends, our lovers, our spouses, even our children are not ours; they belong only to themselves. Possessive and controlling friendships and relationships can be as harmful as neglect.
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Never make somebody your EVERYTHING cause when they're gone you've got NOTHING
Finally, There are three things which we can not control. Its all written in our forehead. They are
1. Birth
2. Death
3. Marriage
So friend, Jun hamro haat ma chaina, tesaile lai bhayena bhanera dherai chitta dukhayera pani ta hundaina ni. Yes i understand, chitta dukcha but we have to let it go and move forward. Harek manche ko afno perfect jodi huncha. The only thing is, hami dharya purbak samay ko partichya garnu parcha. So kahin na kahin timro layak ko manche timro lagi kuri nai rakheko huncha ki kasho sathi......
"I cant get you outta my head How in the world will I begin To let you walk right out my life And blow my heart away
And I cant stop carin about About the apple of my eye And I cant stop doin without Without the center of my life
And I cant stop thinkin about About the way my life would be No I cant stop thinkin about How could you love me then leave And I cant get you outta my mind God knows how hard I tried.........."
The first Christmas without you babe was a day to forget and a night to hate. Yes, there it was and I could see it all - the trees, the lights, happy faces and the snowfall. I searched around for you and longed to hear your voice A lill' late to realise, You weren't there but with the person of your choice!
I sat there amidst people with my lonely heart No babe, I wasn't desperate; it's you I missed and noone else from the start. I reached out to look for your hands to hold waited and waited, until my fingers went numb in the cold.
People giggled, laughed and danced; I faked a quick smile, whenever they glanced. It was obvious - I wasn't the last year's 'ME' and they asked why? pretended I was drunk, no one believed - I can't even lie!
The candles burned and melted down silence, loneliness, and pain left to surround. The closed walls haunted me and your picture made me cry Don't tell me to put it away 'coz u r not 'just another guy'!
I can't find a solace, nowhere can I go every roads lead to you, I m stuck - that I know! No, it's not ADHD, nor insomnia alone, and neither am I anorexic, it was just a potion of your love that was fervidly toxic!
Stranded I m with an open wound and a scar for life,
With you, you took all that I needed to survive.
Please don't wish me a Happy New Year, Since there's no more you, days ahead are filled with just tears.
Spare me a lill bit of your strength and some heartlessness;
Donate me my life, my youth, and my cheerfulness. May be it's this time of the year that's making it even harder; What a season u chose to abandon - Christmas, NewYear, anniversary, valentine's and my birthday are right around the corner. You wouldn't care coz you've one more event added to the list of your holidays Oh dear soul! I've been missing you more than any words can ever say!!!
and it begins - on Day 1 Trump will begin operations to deport millions of undocumented immigrants
I hope all the fake Nepali refugee get deported
Travel Document for TPS (approved)
All the Qatar ailines from Nepal canceled to USA
MAGA मार्का कुरा पढेर दिमाग नखपाउनुस !
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