I am curious to know how you feel at the time when you are having sex?I have promised to remain virgin before I will marry to my Mr.Right..is not it good? because of the some rumors that nepalese girls(not married women) living in the United States are kind'a sluts..I would like to prove that still there are some virgins outta here...soundz cool?

Amazing,
its not always easy to have sex with anyone...
depends on where you are and who you live around with.
also its not safe in various ways to just go ahead.
our mind is complex, first need to think many aspects of relationship and its effects to ourselves and others related to us.
Most think it is something imaginary, so it affects mind as well.
if one goes past that mental level, then another thing to consider is the person to have relations with.
You are right that "why only girls?"
there are many guys who remain virgin until they marry, not because they want to, (well some may want to follow that strictly) but because the situation becomes like that, the right person or the "chance" doesn't come along... I have many friends in their early 30's who never had any relationships. They just like one everywhere they go but never get into relationships. I mean, when they were in highschool, they liked one, then one in college, then one in univ... but just liked nothing happened... those "liked ones" already have few kids now with someone else...

of course there are many who just want to wash hand in the flowing river no matter who the person is just for the heck of it.
and others make a habit.
anywho, nothing is wrong if its controlled, if not even sugar becomes bitter after few teaspoons...
virginkt,
"So think over, and around... we live in a society, so need to mind that as well...above all, the biggest factor is what u have in ur mind...no matter where u r and who u live with...Lotus blooms even in muddy and dirty pond..."
in US if teenage girls don't go to date, parents get worried and try to take her to a psychologist....
in Nepal, same situation will have adverse effect.
Garne le jahan pani garchha, nagarne le kahi pani gardaina ;-)

Moneyminded,

Interesting commentary on Hong Kong's Nepali diaspora. Yours is a generalised comment obviously but I too have heard something to that effect. New places, new cultures, new trends - all part of the evolution I suppose. Or is it happening becuase people have more time visiting those glittering watering holes - the likes of PUSSY CAT & NEPTUNE - in and around the infamous Wanchai? I wonder.

Would love to visit HK one of these days - want to see what has become of the place where I spent a good chunk of my early years in the military. I miss the food more than anything - forget the weekend revelries down town - those hot bowls of Wan Ton soups and plateful of sizzling steamed fish which went terribly well with especial fried rice while you sit out in the open in one of those busy thoroughfares in Mongkok and Fanling. The sea-food and choi sam. Oh well.

This is for Virginkt - good luck with whatever you have set out to achieve. You might as well end up entering your name in the Guiness Book of World Records. You'll never know. Hey, Queen Elizabeth 1st is reputed to have died a virgin. There you go! Therein lies your incentive!

Carpe diem

It's not important to remain virgin. It's rather important to know what you are doing when you are doing it, how you are doing it.

SnakeBite, you BITE tuned out to be massive! Taken straight out from the pages of Kama Sutra?? Hmmm....

Carpe diem

I think you have to know what you're getting into before you get married. There is such a thing as sexual compatibility. If you don't have sex before marriage then you don't know whether or not you are sexually compatible with your partner. It could prove frustrating down the line being married to someone who is not compatible sexually with you.

Does that count masterbation ?

Hahahaha!

La jai hoss timro pani. Ek sa ek chan. hahahaha.

Yesterday must have been sajha chain-reaction day.

Bottom line:
"If it makes you happy, if can't be that bad."

Rest as you should know - to each to their own.

Astu!

Sorry guys! I have planned to write on few more topics, which are frequently discussed in this board, before leaving Sajha for quite a while. However, my beautiful busy life is holding my hands tight. I have always appreciate your ideas, your thoughts, your way of looking things. They make me to think holistically. I also have earned something in my life, and I am sharing it with you with the volition that it might be helpful to some of you. Hope it will :).

Jalim Ji, thanks for the appreciation. What I wrote is the truth. When any one of our sense organs strikes with its respective object some biochemical reaction takes place inside your body. For example: When some people see vinegar (acetic acid), they feel kind of unpleasent current in their body. That current is the reaction of their mind to the biochemical product caused by vinegar catalyst. However, some people's salavary glad brust while seeing the vinegar. Don't you think this is biochemical reaction?

Take another example: When people see a hot opposite sex, if they are self consious, they can notice something sensational in their body, which is of course due to some bio-chemical reactions inside the body. The experience you get during the sexual feelings comes from the rate of flow of blood through your veins and arteries. What regulates the blood flow? Contact of sense organs with their respective organs causes a big change in the anatomy.

contd...

Scientist have proved, by taking MRI (magnetic resonance imaging) pictures of the brain, that the structure of the brain gets changed while you are in emotions. And every single emotion is inspired by any of the sense organs.

All I mean is, when sense organs strike with their respective objects, some biochemical reactions take place inside our body. The product of the biochemical reaction can have only three flavors, not more, not less.

1. It can be pleasent.
2. It can be unpleasent.
3. It can be neutral.

Forget abot biochemical reaction. In simple plain language, whenever one of the five sense organs comes in contact of their respective objects, they cause three types of feelings.

1. Pleasent
2. Unpleasent
3. Neutral

Not more not less than these three types of feelings. Don't take this as my words. This is the truth you can think of it and conclude.

Tendency of our mind is such that we like pleasent feelings. That is the reason why we always look for the pleasent objects for our senses. We are always hunting for pleasent sound, pleasent scean, pleasent taste, pleasent smell, pleasent touch, and pleasent thought.

Here I am going to talk about the pleasent touch. Sex is the biggest source of the pleasent touch.

contd....

virgin keti:

i'm virgin too. let's break our virginities together. Arrange a rendezvous !

In my first posting I told you to ask few questions to yourself and I gave you one and only one honest answer of those questions. I am throwing another question. Very common question though, however, think of it seriously and honestly.

Almost everybody are up for earning money. You are a student you want to have a nice job with thick salary. You are business person, you think day and night about money. Whatever you are doing, your final destination is money (For most of the people). Why? Why do you want to earn money? In another word: Why do you want to collect wealth?

You would say that you want to earn money for the better life. I will ask you again, what characteristics the better life has.

The honest answer is, better life is that life where you will have plenty of pleasant objects to enjoy. You always wants to buy things that comfort you, and give you pleasure. It means you are looking for the objects that amuse you, and please you. Here also we end of getting the same answer. We are earning money to enjoy the pleasure. And the pleasure comes through the contact of sense organs with their pleasent object. So you will buy the food for the sense organs that you have earned.

It means you are looking for nothing for but the sensual pleasure. Your evey action is directly or indirectly motivated by the greed of sensual pleasure pleasure. This is life. This is reality of life.

Don't take these as my words. I am not a new person who is saying these. Check the validity of these words in your personal case.

Contd....

For tomorrow:

Why Sex is Taboo almost in every civilization and every society?
Why every religious leaders like Buddha, Jisus, Mahommad discouraged the sex and encouraged the celibacy?
Why people followed them? Were all of those people at their time dumb? Or was that a kind of fashion?
Is sex a biological need?
Why modern day scientist, who are realistic and result oriented, don't advocate for free sex?
How the concept of virginity introduced in the society?
Is virginity only for women?
What for virginity is?


I will be answering these questions from my understanding.

vishu ji, well said.............tapai le pahile nai mukti paaunu bhako bhanera malai thaha thiyo...........
actually u dont even need sex to be happy..............it is all in your mind...why ppl in old age are so happy even without sex.............just think!

jai hanuman

Thukka mula keta ho. Jasle je suggestion magyo didai hidne bani kahile chutcha ha timi hrauko?

The original poster virginketi is nothign but a virginKETA. He posted the first message just to take the piss out of you and you guys fell for it. So much so that some of your posting could qualify to be posted on a decent sexology journal and this guy who calls himself virginketi must be laughing behind his computer, probably drinking some beer.

shame on you virginketi for wasting your time and our time. go f*** yourself.

p.s. virginketi, if u are really a girl, pls forgive me and send me an email. Then we will arrange a meeting and sort your problem, ok?

Balla last ma ayera someone had teh gut to say this...very nice....

साझामा सेक्स ऐडुकेशन फोरुम नि राखे हुन्थ्यो क्यारे सान दाइ!!!
यस्तो धागो शुरु गर्ने कात्तिकेहरुलाइ सार्है काम लाग्थ्यो!!!...:P

Hi Virgin

couple thing I would like to tell you

1. Just like you are experience in your job, you can do better
2. true love and sex is different
3. you love someone does not necessary means you will have best sex life.
4. If you are virgin, you may not be able to satisfy your spouse.
5. No sex experience .. no oral sex not good at all
6. if you really know where is heaven, when you make love with someone that you will forget every thing in your life and relax and releif.

So there are so many other things can happened. Normally guys are dog so

DO IT "NIKE"

Wish you good luck and have fun.

to itch (each) his own :P

To leech his own?!

MM Ji how are you doing my friend? Nice to hear something from you.

मुक्ती म बाट light year टाढा छ :)।मलाई मुक्ति प्राप्त भनेर मुक्तहरुको अपमान नगर्नु होला।मलाई मुक्त भन्नु भएकोमा म लज्जित छु। मैले मनका सारा बिकार र बिकृतीहरुबाट मुक्त हुनुलाई मुक्ति बुझेको छु।मरो मन बिकारहरुको महासमुन्द्र जस्तो लाग्छ मलाई।

म प्रसन्न छु, किनकी मैले मन सफा गर्ने बाटो पाएको छु। एक एक पाइला गरेर त्यो बह्माण्डको ब्यास बराबर बाटोमा बामे सर्दैछु।जतिसुकै लामो बाटो भएपनि एक पाइलाबाट सुरु हुन्छ,पाइला पाइला हिडेर सिधिन्छ।

यदि तपाई चाहानुहुन्छ भने, हामी मुक्तिका बारेमा आ-आफ्नो बुझाई बाड्न सक्छौ।

To other pal:
म Sex को बारेमा जे लेख्दैछु, त्यसले कसैलाई दु:ख पुगेमा क्षमा।त्यसलाई न्याय दिएर पढ्नुहोला, तपाइको मान्यता र जिबन सैलीसैग मेल नखान सक्छ।If you like accept it, if you don't like, then consider this writer as an ignorent and ignore it.

I always want to write about something which might be helpfult to at least few people. There are many confused people, who don't know about sexual misconduct. My intention is just to help them out.

I will be paid for the volition of my mind, which is to help to those confused people. Let me complete what I want to say. Read it! I recommend you to read; this might be for you :).

BTW, thank you for reading :).

I am planning to complete today. Lets see!