The recent melodrama in the media regarding a social service icon Dilshova comes as a harsh reminder of the day and age we live in.

The main issue was that the credibility of Dilshova was attacked in a very heinous manner - accusing her of sexual misconduct on the very children she gave her life to serve. This was the worst slander and defamation of character that was possible and the involved media chose to publish such harsh judgment on her character without any kind of verification or sense of responsibility. Even the name of the journalist making the accusation has not been published.

It is a shame that many highly qualified educated individuals are seemingly participating in the blame game instead of trying to understand the gravity of the situation. The point is that a selfless individual who was doing an immense service to the needy was attacked in a moral and personal manner, and the so called educated elite is trying to make it about the 'management', 'record keeping' and 'healthy living conditions'.

They forget that this is Dilshova's home, and how many of you know homes where they need to have a big management for record keeping and meeting specific requirement? This is not the US or some developed country we are talking about. In paper it looks good to say we have this many educated and this many hospitals, but in the street and village level, we have the majority of Nepali population living in worse conditions than the one provided by Dilshova. You cannot blame her for making their lives better off than it would have been without her intervention.

Legally, maybe she's required to file papers and such, but you cannot blame an unlicensed surgeon for saving a man dying of heart attack. However, if it is in your character to find fault you can always find fault saying 'He was not even licensed.' 'He had not taken a bath for a month.' 'He was not using sanitized equipment or gloves.' and the list can go on. But, the most important point here is that a life was saved. Whether it was a legal thing or not is not important specially in Nepal where murderers roam free with protection from higher echelon of the legal entities.

So dwelling on the legality of social service is a ridiculous stance that anyone can take. The sanitation is an important issue, but then again, how many Nepali families have access to good sanitation? Someone living exposed to the street is worse off than someone living under Dilshova's house. Would it be nice? Yes, obviously! It would be nice if everyone in Nepal had access to fresh drinking water, access to medication, sanitary living environment and all that, but we cannot force the ideal scenario onto harsh reality.

As far as the establishment reeking urine and feces, anyone who have been to a daycare of infants will know that it is only normal for such smell and similarly when there are numerous elderlies with low control over their bowels and bladders, then such smell is only natural.

Having said all this, obviously some better management would be nice, but then again, there are many things in this life that would be nice. I am sure this comes as a good lesson to Dilshova in the need to manage more - as long as she has the finances for it.

All I am saying is that let's not put excessive undue stress on trivialities, and appreciate the big picture. A social service icon's character has been defamed by the greedy media who want to sensationalize everything so that they can sell well. Instead of focusing on 'good to have things', can we look critically at these irresponsible media for their false claim, trying to discredit a known figure to gain negative publicity for their own establishments?

She's a fraud

I don't get it why are people so sympathetic towards Dil Shova. She is fraud and there's no doubt about it.

1. If she knows the procedures about registering an institution for elderly, how hard is it to get his child care registered?

2. People are talking about the sanitary condition of Aamaghar: agreed that those less privileged people should be thankful ( and we should hush) that they at least getting food and shelter, but what the hell she did with all the donations and charity she got?

3. Why does she have to have someone come and pick up the "rato lagaauney lady" from the temple to help some 80+ years lady. Why can't somebody come and pick up her or drop the helper lady to that elderly's house? Something fishy here.

4. मिठो मिठो बोलेर, कसैको अगाडी दुई थोपा आँशु झारेर, मलाइ कानून थाहा भएन, मैले सडकमा भएकालाई न्यानो-तातो मात्र दिएँ भनेर she can not get away. Usually, these are the kind of people that have देखाउने दाँत एउटा चपाउने दाँत एउटा. From outside innocent, but outside is very fishy.

5. I don't get why Bijaya Kumar is defending her. May be he's hurt that the personality with whom he interviewed turned out to be a fraud. He is having hard time taking that. Just plain and simple as that.

she didn't register her balgriha because she needed the flexibility to bring kids from Karnali and have the missionaries pay her to convert those kids to christianity. For this she didn't care whether they got good food, or good shelter. She was like hell with it i am gonna send them as day laborers; send them as sex slaves; and not provide hygienic living condition.

She should be hung to death.

I dont like myansar and their vigilante journalists, but I saw photos of children from aama ghar wearing torn up clothes and eating rotten food, biscuits when Dil Shova gets tons of new clothes and food donations every month. She's been selling them while letting the kids wear their old clothes and eat rotten foods.

What if further investigation of the children reveals that she has been pimping those little kids to be raped by her Christian friends? Those foreign christian missionaries always turn out to be pedophiles, so it might be true.

Mysansar also raised thousands of dollars by crying like a baby. Is he going to open his books and records and show whether he used the money on running the blog or on booze and girls? If not, why is he trying to kill one of the few charities run by simple Nepalis. Umesh from Mysansar also violated Google AdSense to make money against it's policy. When Google banned him he was crying like he was wronged when what he was doing was criminal. Mysansar should stop this hypocrisy.

this was no more than a business to her after all she is a convertee.

Thanks mancini,

That's exactly what I mean.

Pats,
That is a different issue. Mysansar is a blog run by a person and many people may have issues with it. You are trying to defend Dilshova in very very pathetic way in this case. I dont know in what way you are connected to Dilshova and for what you need to defend her.

One of the reason that motivated us to collect money for her at Sajha was that her house where she was keeping elderly was going to get auctioned by banks for defaulting the loan.

In a very cynical thought, may be she needed to convert the home into a homeless shelter so that the bank would not foreclose it for moral/social/ethical grounds.

I wish the magic word of "Christianity" had also been known back then. I have zero faith in Christian based social work. They are all about conversion and profit and not about social welfare.

This new video of two kids talking in mysansar is an eye opener. I dont care about elderly and kids doing house hold chores. I dont care about the cleanness. I dont care about other mis managements because that is pretty much a standard for Nepali house hold and you cannot bash an uneducated elderly woman for not managing that properly. If that was the only issue i have no issue with the whole situation. We can inspire her to get a manager to manage all that.

BUT what i care about is the allegations of abuse and intent of malice. Child labor outside the shelter, selling children to foreigners, lying to donors about kids being "dwanda pidit" but were brought by agents to the house, selling new clothes but giving kids torn clothes, selling donated items and worse of all the sex trade allegations.

Bijaykumar, he is one egotistical moron, he has done some good journalism here and there but mostly he is egotistical and he will do anything to defend what he created. He brought Dilshova to the limelight and he will do anything to be not known as the guy who did all this.

Down with Bijay Kumar

no wonder sajha is full of d**k suckers to reveal their pathetic opinion on dilshova and her deeds..disgusting arsehole even to criticize on the religion..
muzee harukai comment bata eeniharuko sochne level ani character tha hunca kee eeneharu pani tee ek madhey hun jasle babu ama lai hela garchan ani dobato ma chadchan swasnee ko muzee ma ghusrinako lagee.
tehi bhayera dilshova dekhi aakroshit bhaka hun..

नागरिकले त्यो हेडलाईन लेख्नमा अली जल्दबाजी र गल्ति गर्‍यो जस्तो लाग्छ। पत्रीकाको काम जनतालाई खबर पुर्‍याउनु हो न की judgment दिने, नागरिक ले राम्ररी छान्बिन गरेर मात्र त्यो खबर छापेको भए हुन्थ्यो अथवा यौन दुराचारको आरोप नलगायेर खाली आमाको घरको सफाइ सम्बन्धी लापर्वाहीको न्युज छापेको भए हुने थियो। सिर्फ एक तर्फी टेलिफोने सम्बादको भरमा दिलशोभाले यौन दुराचार गर्‍यो भनेर निश्कर्श त निकाल्न भएन नि, होईन र? नागरिकको यो tabloid स्टाईलको बिना प्रमाणको सन्सनिखेज हेडलाईन ले एक दिन नागरिकलाई पोल्नेछ। यदि यो कुराको (यौन दुराचार) प्रमाण नभएमा जनताले नागरिक लाई कठघरामा ल्याउनै पर्छ। नागरिकले दिलशोभाको आसुँको मोल चुकाउनु नै पर्छ।

Now this is real investigative Journalism, not the s**t hackjob done by Mysansar and Nagriknews:

http://setopati.com/samaj/9018/

@sojoketo: please be a little respectful of yourself and others even though we might not know you. using those uncivilized words wont give weight to your comment.

I appreciate everyone's opinions here.

People are bound to have differences in a democratic society and so it is only natural to have people having different opinions regarding this issue.

Few people have expressed that the important thing here is the mismanagement, bad sanitation, and financial transparency.

The importance of good management and good organization is a universal truth which does not need to be restated.

Personally, for me this is about people like you and me who are trying to choose which side to support in the face of a false, sensationalized defamation of character and portrayal of a respectable citizen as as sexual abuser/exploiter without any proof.

Now some of us see the absolute ridiculousness of the whole media circus and find it fundamentally wrong to publicly defame someone's good name with the ultimate insult of sexual deviant. Some of us however choose to scratch the legality and working condition of Dilshova institution AS IF all other institutions are all operating legally in all possible way (Are all institutions using legal paid softwares?).

I am not saying that mismanagement is the way to go! There are obvious things that we do not need to argue about. Management is good, transparency is good, doing things in a legal way is good, sanitation is good. Noone has to take the higher ground and preach these things.

In my opinion, the only preaching that is needed here is the absolutely horrendous lack of judgment and ethics shown by the involved media in demonizing a respectable individual as a sexual miscreant. And thus my stance on this issue.

You are free to scratch into the underlying good management, transparency, legality, sanitation, which as I said are obvious things which would be good for any institution.

This one by Dipendra Bhandari is worth reading.
http://epaper.ekantipur.com/showtext.aspx?boxid=1653796&parentid=37795&issuedate=332014

A mismanagement is when you spend 2 dollars that you can do with 1 dollar. In this case she was spending 50 cents when she had 2 dollars.
by no means this is a mismanagement. this is a classic case of greed.

नागरिक news को सामाजिक बहिस्कार गर्न पर्छ !! हुदै नभएको घटना लाइ छानबिन नै नगरी तेस्तो गम्बिर आरोप लाउन हुदैन ! पत्रिका को आफ्नो मर्यादा हुन्छ , जुन पत्रिका ले तेस्को पालना गर्दैन तेस्ता लाइ सबै ले बहिस्कार नै गर्न पर्छ !
mysansar को उमेस तेस्को उदाहरण हो !

As there are so many news floating about Dil Shova that it's hard to keep track, but I read somewhere that she got total Rs. 1.12 crore income through donation for this year. It also reported that she spent around Rs. 3.50 lakhs per month on food, school supplies, medicines etc.for her members. And as of now, there is around Rs. 70 lakhs in the Aamaghar account. So this roughly shows that she is not using the fund for her personal luxuries and she's not transporting suitcases full of money to her Maiti khalak as reported.

Yeah, as Mancini pointed out, she seems to be spending 50 cents when she had 2 dollars. But I don't agree with him that it was her greed. I think, she did this because of her insecurities about the finances. She had gone through the extreme poor condition where she said that they could not even buy vegetables and they just ate "[Disallowed String for - Bad word 'fuk']ka chyura". It is not guaranteed that she will continue to get this amount of donation in coming years too. So she might have become insecure to spend generously and is still sticking to her frugal ways.

When people get old, they somehow begin to behave stubborn like kids and it's well known fact that it is certainly not an easy job to raise kids even for the parents. So given her efficiency, her own old age and her lack of knowledge about the standards she should have met to run old age/ child care facility, she seems to have failed. But I think there is no place to doubt about her good intentions.

Shirish ,

अनि दिलशोभा को पक्छमा , बिपक्छमा या निस्पक्छ भएर आफ्नो राय दिने हामीहरु पनि दोषी जस्तो लग्न थाल्यो अब त मलाई | सबै लाइ intellectual or moral high हुन्छ जस्तो छ यो बिषयमा आफ्नो राय दिए पछि |