how many of you are satisfied with your married life??how many of you fight with your spouse because of your family interference??anyone wants to share their problem......??

Tara Syanjali, kun cha-he ko Pas-ta-chap dheri huncha?? Please enlighten....

Yo ta time time ki baat hai. Single bela single life ramailo. Married bhaye pachhi married life ramailo. Ramailo maanne lai jahile pani ramailo. Dikka maanne lai jun bela pani dikka

Khoi sathi haru afulai ta married life nai ramailo hola jasto lagchha. Yeklai basda basda hairan lagi sako. Sabai sathi haru aa-aafno budhi sanga baskea chha ramayeka chhan. Afu ta k garnu yar...............................Tyahi pani khas ma kun ramailo hunchha bhanne maile bihe gare pachhi bhanchhu la.

Namesake you stole my words. I'm sick sick sick of my inlaws interfearing in my life, nothing they dont know about my life, no privacy at all. and the husband talking about loving his family makes me more sick. I hate them i hate them i hate them to my last nerve.

Pareen, I guess it is not only you but all Nepalese women hate their in-laws. Our society is very unpredictable; she forgets that she has in-laws too. Marriage is a compromise, better communication and understanding will help to heal but this should not be one sided, that is the dilemma. It is easy to say but hard to face. If your husband wants to listen you, he has to face with nick name” joitingre”. And male hate to hear that so they will join the team. Then the case will be more complex.

Syanjali,

"I guess it is not only you but ALL NEPALESE WOMEN HATE THEIR IN-LAWS"

where did that ALL came from, did you do any survey or what ?? what backs up for you statement. Please do not blindly put such statement there are a lot who loves their in-laws.

 

Hey pareen,

I did not understand why your husband talking about loving his family makes you sick??
 After your marriage dont you love ur dad and mom and ur siblings. It happens same to your husband, he can't act irresponsible to his family with whom he has grown up, with whom he gets he spend his childhood case of siblings and with whom he understand the world.
What I think that marriage is a ceremony or institution or event which should unite two families, and I think that nobody should believe that responsibilities of husband to his family either siblings or his parents should take as interference.
I have one question for you, don't  u still love ur families and what will you feel if ur husband dont like to hear from you that you love ur families, it happens same for him, these kind of things will start the problem in the relationships.

And if you like to share what kind of privacy u want from ur inlaws.

Pareen,

Try to think from different angle..........and you will notice that your thought might be odd too........Look at your statement, "and the husband talking about loving his family makes me more sick"..........looks like you don't think your husband's family as your own family and therefore referring as- his family. looks like problem is in your thought and you have created a wall between your "maiti- my family" and "ghar-his family". The problem lies here.............and that's why probably women do not like their inlaws.

You asked for it, now deal with it! 

 Well i am  not married , but my expectations are not very high !

mother in law!! oh.........

pareen  i can understand  why you hate your in-laws.......because only girl can understand girls problem.....when we get married we have lots of expectation from husband and his family.....like we expect them to speak with us nicely .....treat us like their own daughter.......but its never happen .....but they always want them to treat as our own parent.....love and respect  them as our own parent..... they can never understand  that  to get anyone love and respect we have to love them and respect them as well....it cannot be done forcefully.....when you force anyone to love and respect without giving them then it will change into  hate........
 so girls....if you want to happy ....you have to be independent ,carrier oriented ,think positively,and dont expect to much from other....keep yourself busy.dont let your mind become cluttered with worry coz it leaves less room for the good stuff....and remember....if you take a step by faith to do the right thing ,then god will do the rest ,the things you cant do.

I do agree with Pareen though. if you have lived independently for years and suddenly you are married and living with your in laws, you do feel odd. I am not very close with my own parents and when my in laws start making rules around house, it becomes inbearable. it is easy to give advice but imagine when they decide what to eat or what you should cook, etc, it tend to get in your nerves. this i say wtih all respect because they are not big issues like hating them or something, but it just feels so tight.

The worst is when you have a baby and your in laws decide how the baby should be raised. Imagine, they saying the baby need to live in 80 degrees all the time. I know they say it with love but another aspect is also they do not want to change or be educated or want to know your OPINION. That sucks big time.

 

किनहो म माथि खनिनु भयो नि? हजुर र हजुरको परिवार अपवाद होला अन्यथा प्राय हरेक घरमा थोर बहुत खट पट हुन्छनै .
सासु, लाठे छोरो पाउने म , आनन्द लिने त , मेरो खटन मा चल्नु पर्छ , एदी उन्ले सासु बेहोर्नु  परेको भए झनै खतरा छ। अनी घर खानु परेकी नन्द भए माईती मा आएर साटो फेर्न खोज्दछन । अनपढ त अनपढ भाई हाले, लेखन पढ्न जाने परे भने एस्त मुर्ख हरु माहा मुर्ख हुन्छन .
हुनत बुहारी  हुनु पर्ने ले पनि आफ्नो घरको अवस्था देखे पछी माइती मा दु:ख न दिनु पर्ने हो , त र सबै बिर्सिन्छन । लोग्ने आफ्नै मात्रै हो , भन ठन्छन , दसकौ लगाएर  शिक्षा  दिछा  ले  मान्छे बनाएको, पहिलो रात बिताउन पएको छैन , सलकै उल्टो बगी दिने । तेसैले भनेका होलन जहाँ नसो पस्यो त्याहा माया बस्यो, बाबुआमाको मायाले कहाँ पुग्छ र ? यो त्रिसन्खु खेल हो भुझेर बुज्न नसकिने र भुझाउन नस्किने खेल हो र कहिले काही यो झेल मा बादलिन्छ ।

 

The only thing i say is:

 Malai nasodha kaha dukcha ghaau ?

Marital Woes

•Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends. You order what you want, then when you see what the other person has, you wish you had ordered that.
• Man: Is there any way for long life?
Dr: Get married.
Man: Will it help?
Dr: No, but the thought of long life will never come.
• Why do couples hold hands during their wedding?
It's a formality just like two boxers shaking hands before the fight begins!
• Wife: Darling today is our anniversary, what should we do?
Husband: Let us stand in silence for 2 minutes.
• It's funny when people discuss Love Marriage vs Arranged.
It's like asking someone, if suicide is better or being murdered.
• It is difficult to understand GOD. He makes such beautiful things as women and then he turns them into Wives !
• A man who surrenders when he's wrong, is Honest. A man who surrenders when not Sure, is Wise. A man who surrenders even if he's Right, is a Husband.
• If u r married please ignore this msg, for everyone else: Happy Independence Day
• Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you say. After marriage, he'll fall asleep before you finish.
• Man receives telegram: Wife dead-should be buried or cremated?
Man: Don't take any chances. Burn the body and bury the ash.
• Prospective husband: Do you have a book called 'Man, The Master of Women'?
Salesgirl: The fiction department is on the other side, sir.

• Q: Why dogs don't marry?
A: Because they are already leading a dog's life!
• There was this guy who told his woman that he loved her so much that he would go thruogh hell for her. They got married and now he is going thru hell.
• Ek aadmi apni biwi ka antim sanskar karke ghar ja raha tha. Achanak bijli chamki, badal garje, jor se barish start ho gayi.
Dukhi aadmi: Lagta hai pahunch gayi.


• Fact of life: One woman brings you into this world crying & the other ensures you continue to do so for the rest of your life!


• Husband wife ki godh mein leta hua thaa. Wife: Kaisa lag raha hai ji.
Husband: Aise jaise bhagwaan Vishnu Shesh naag ki godh mein lete hon.
• Q: Why doesn't law permit a man to marry a second woman?
A: Because as per law you cannot be punished twice for the same offence!
• Life is a paradox-what u want u don't get(luv), what u get, u don't njoy(marriage) , what u njoy is not permanent(galfriend ), what is permanent is boring(wife)
• What men want: A woman who can cook, a woman who earns good money, a woman who loves him & system to make sure that those 3 women never meet each other!

Sounds like living a married life here but your in-laws still in Nepal is a best choice right??

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Marriage is like working on it to make it satisfying, aint it ? 
About Family Interference or Any Interference for that matter : Sometimes, its good to listen. He wins, who can convince them to your ideas in a courteous manner. [ sorry, not a winning/losing game there either ].

Frankly speaking, i wouldnt want to  "impose" do's and dont's  to her.  And i am pretty sure, she wouldnt like me doing the same, put my parents aside.

hoina bihe garne ki nagrane ha teso bhaye?

LOL!
somebody mentioned about expectations. i think that's the keyword. we do expect a lot from our would-be-spouse and the conjugal life. After getting married, we think life's gonna totally change. We'll take positive strides, we'll see new horizons, new avenues, new 'hopes'. Life will be more beautiful and tension free with reduced stress coz someone to share them with.

Romancing: come back home from work and see her face and quench your hunger/thirst or other desires (no pun intended).

Dreaming: she will make good food for you without you having to look at the ugly-faced kitchen. she will do dishes as well while you be a couch potato on your will and watch  TV for hours and snore in between.

Relaxing: she will massage your body (better than how those japanese experts do) and alleviate pain in your shoulders, joints, back or muscles while you lie on your bed and think "Ahhh...life had never been this easy". Then switch the light off and enjoy her singing in high notes while you sing with her in chorus all night long.

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WAKE UP! That's not gonna happen. Ever heard of sun rising from the west? No! change of that sort doesn't happen in real life! If there must be some change, the sun will possibly never shine again ever, once you get married hahaha..

Just my 2 cents